One Trait at a Time: How to Ask God for Help Without Feeling Selfish

Wisdom Scripture

“Give me wisdom and knowledge, that I may lead this people, for who is able to govern this great people of yours?” —2 Chronicles 1:10 (NIV)

Wisdom Quote

“Wisdom is given to those who seek it (1 Kgs 3:9–14; Prov 1:20; 8:1; Jas 1:5).”¹

¹ Nettelhorst, R. P. “Wisdom.” Ed. Douglas Mangum et al. Lexham Theological Wordbook. 2014: n. pag. Print. Lexham Bible Reference Series.

Don’t Apologize for Asking

Some of us hesitate to ask God for anything for ourselves because it feels selfish. There are wars, famines, and grieving families in the world. Why would I bother God about my temper, my spending, or my complaining?

Of course, we should pray for the world and for others; prayer ought to stretch our hearts well beyond ourselves. But it is not selfish to ask God to make you more like Jesus. You are asking for the one thing you can be certain he wants: to form his Son’s character in you.

Others feel unworthy to approach God. With all I’ve done and left undone, who am I to ask God for anything?

Remember, God is your Father who loves you. He invites you—no, commands you—to ask for good things. And if you don’t ask him, you forfeit his power to change you.

James says it quite directly: “You do not have because you do not ask God” (James 4:2).

Hebrews invites you to come to God confidently, not because you are worthy, but because Jesus is worthy: “Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need” (Hebrews 4:16).

Don’t let false fears of being selfish or unworthy stop you from boldly asking God for his gracious help. He’s eager to respond to you.

Prayer Unleashes Supernatural Power

Prayer accesses God’s unlimited power. It moves the hand that moves the world. Prayer changes things because the Father responds to his children’s requests.

Honest prayer says: “God, I know you know what’s really going on with me. I need help. I cannot change myself from the inside out. Meet me here.”

That is humbling—and it is freeing because you no longer have to pretend you are strong enough to carry your own transformation.

Prayer does not make you passive. It makes you dependent in the best sense of the word: it connects your soul with the Source of all power.

Pray it plainly: “Holy Spirit, fill me today. Do in me what I cannot do in myself.”I’d love to hear from you.

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